10 Ways to Be the Perfect Partner

Part of the challenge us technology communicators have is the very job itself – being buried in the latest stuff to bring you the ideas and insights that will make your life easier, more fun and more effective.

But by the same token it can often make our downtimes more limited, and in themselves more challenged.

I’m the first to say ‘I neglect you’ to mine other half when I should be able to bellow from the rooftops, ‘I have given you everything’.

I think the old, ginger one out of the Spice Girls said it best. Recounting her last relationship (and there have been a few…) with a geek in ‘Say You’ll Be There’, she squawked:

I’m giving you everything all that joy can bring this I swear
(I give you everything – that’s the other ones that sang that)
And all that I want from you is a promise you will be there
Say you’ll be there (Say you will be there)
Won’t you sing it with me

So, don’t let it slip or slide. There are times when your work is the most important thing on earth. Least, that’s how it feels in the moment. But then think back to when you were in the moment of a spot of ‘lover lover’ and I’m sure you’ll agree, work is worthless, vapid by comparison.

People love people – not productivity. So when your computer tugs you by the sleeve (or you could just have a thread caught between the Y and U keys) or you duck out of bed for a late-night coding sesh, remember this: your partner wants you to show you…

1. Care. Steal moments from the job in hand. Get down the shops and buy her some nice cereal. Or he. Let’s be honest, us geeks don’t all have dangly bits. Care means being there but it also means being excitable and spontaneous. Do something out of the ordinary. And if taking him/her to the theatre doesn’t do the trick, push them, fully-clothed, into a fountain.

2. Can. Be true to yourself and make the impossible, possible. Because you know my friend, there’s no such thing as can’t. Genuinely. I’ve seen numberless examples of things that looked out-of-this-world that were brought down to an Earth level by a stiff constitution and a determination we can all aspire to. And maybe a large whisky.

3. Are strong. You don’t have to pull a cart round the town centre to demonstrate your lack of fragility. Being strong is about making decisions.

Challenge for you: Go for a month without saying ‘I don’t mind’, or ‘it’s up to you’. Within reason – if it’s his/her birthday, you might choose to forego making the choice once or twice. But seriously this stuff is gold: not only does seizing the day, or Carpe Diem to you Romans, make a big, positive impression on S/HWMBO – it also makes you enormously aroused as to your potency. Try it: it’ll make everyone smile.

4. Can cook. I’m totally down with this one. I have this secret hankering to be a chef. I read Londonelicious, and all those blogs where people go to restaurants every flickin day and rattle on about how incredible their dining habits are. And you know what? It’s because there’s an invisible connection between eating and loving. You eat good, you love great.

Secret 1: Oven avoiders can make a huge impact by following Delia Smith’s ridiculously simple How to Cheat at Cooking book. Get yourself a basket of pre-concocted ingredients from M&S (mince beef in gravy in a tin) and a bag of spuds, and you got yourself a lush cottage pie. And a juicy lady or guy who will adore you forever (or at least until you burn the ice cream on your next culinary adventure).

5. Have fun. Don’t be serious – be a Lebowski, dude. Be prepared to poke fun at yourself, to laugh big.

Here’s secret numero 2: the bigger you laugh, the better you are. In business, in the bedroom. Shocked? Think about it. You network to a serious level, you get into a conversation about work – the economy, greenhouse gases, why Gordon Brown is an utter ‘tard, something like that. One of you sparks up with a light-hearted aside – you bellow like a fool. It’s a way of diffusing the tough times and making a new friend. And snatching a contract from under the nose of your staunchest competitor. The same rules apply at home – kind of.

6. Can say sorry. In the kitchen, in the car, in the conservatory – be the first one to apologise. It doesn’t matter whose fault it is, just clear the goddamn air. Disagreements are natural and part of life but don’t get bogged down in the detail. I know this: whatever you’re arguing about isn’t what you care about. You just want a snarl, and now you got it. So drop it, move on, make a little love, cook a little pie. But for heaven’s sake, crack a joke and motivate yourself out of your rabbit hole of uselessness. Debates are fine – disagreements are poisonous. See their side, and whether or not they see yours, you’ll be doing yourself a favour to get rid of the situation. And make a note to next time chew on a rope instead.

7. Have a smart inner geek. Everyone knows the ladies love a smartly turned-out gadget herbert. To be a technologist you have to be extraordinarily clever. Girls and boys love the intelligence thing. It means you’re an expert communicator (even if you don’t have the confidence, you ARE, believe me) and can see like Superman through problems that other homo sapiens would struggle with. Man/woman, you’re incredible. So covet and treasure your ample abilities and go shine on your cohort.

8. Think alternatively. Lateral cogitation is like your sixth sense. Your friends in manufacturing may have an aptitude for sproggets and bobbins but you, my friend, are in the zone when it comes to new ideas. They say you need to conquer your inner entrepreneur, technician and manager: but people look to you to spark inspiration. This applies equally to your love kingdom. Switch off the TV and show him what the lounge was really built for. Guys, recreate the cover of Scandal ready for your lady friend to return from work. Learn parcour and go jump off a building. I tell you one thing that works above all: making a picture of their face comprised of tiny little pictures of the places you’ve been and the things you’ve done together. Man, that rocks. I want one: Princess?

9. Help others. Get down the soup kitchen, rock out with those less fortunate than yourself. Help the homeless in Haiti with a contribution of your skills, be the next Chris Moyles and join your local Talking Newspaper group so the blind have to suffer current affairs junk, too.

10. Read widely. Don’t do what I do, do what I say… I have a library stacked full of business propaganda masquerading as fine advice. It’s not big or clever to bury yourself in manuals, guides and Dummies books the whole day long. Experiment with fiction.

Secret 3: there’s a mind-boggling site that sends a few minutes of stunning reading material to your inbox or RSS feed every day. It’s called DailyLit and it means it’s safe for folks like you and me to fork intellectually without leaving the comfort of our screens. Books and pixels in perfect harmony!

11. Can write. Evidently ‘can count’ is missing from this list, for personal reasons. A message a day keeps the counsellor away. After making the Coco Pops sing as they endure third-degree burns in my scalding pot of milk, popping a Vit C, dishing out the Actimel and packing a lunch fit for a tiny queen (for she eats like a sparrow with constipation) I create a piece of prose on a green slab of cardboard. It is thrust with adulation into the carrier bag containing such miscellaneous digestibles as a foil-wrapped pair of Oreos (neither of us like them but I can’t bear to throw them away – all those hungry people…) and perhaps some Haribo Starmix. It makes her day and it kickstarts mine. Ready to foist myself into the hot seat to create a blog post worthy of your time.

Well, was it? Let me know if any of these tips, y’know, resonate. If not, why not?

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Equipment List For Horse Owners

With the ever-increasing range of horse equipment available on the market we took a look at the essentials that every horse owner should have.

Well other than the horse your first thing you would require is a halter. The continental design is the best as it allows for the use of a chain should it be required. Most halters manufactured today are continental in design. Extra features include safety clips (they are important if you intend turning your horse out with a halter on) lining for the nose and poll. Which one you select will largely depend on your budget and taste, as they are available in almost every possible.

Next you will need a lead rope, a thicker softer lead rope is advisable, and if it has a loop on the end cut it off or loosen it, lead reins should never have a loop at the end. Ideally a lead rein should measure between 5-7 feet in length, as they are the most versatile

Spare feeder and water bucket even if your horse is boarded it is advisable to have your own spare set to ensure that should your horse get sick or it’s bucket suddenly disappears your horse does not suffer water deprivation. It is advisable to have at least two hay nets as well

Grooming kit also advisable to have two of if possible allowing for changeover and cleaning without interrupting the grooming routine. Mark your hoofpick well, as it is usually the first thing to wander off in any yard. Invest in a few spares.

Two working bridles, it is advisable when buying a horse to enquire as to the possibilities of getting the bridle with the horse as well, more often than not the seller would be willing to part with the bridle (unless it’s a Keiffer or Stubben that is) Buy a spare bridle and oil it well to have available in the event of the working bridle breaking

Working boots
Brushing boots is advisable for everyday riding, unless your horse requires specialized boots, which you would be informed of when purchasing, or after having had the horse vetted. Speak to your stable manager or instructor as to the most suitable boots.

Saddle a well-fitted saddle that’s to your choice and riding style. Check your saddle every three months to ensure it’s correct fit.

Rugs and clothing
Day sheet, used mostly after bathing a horse to get the coat to lie flat, of for travelling.

Sweat sheet used to cool your horse down and prevent chills on cool or cold days. Often confused with a flysheet, a sweat sheet has the same appearance as a flysheet. It is however heavier and does not have the belly straps

Flysheet if you own a grey horse or one with sweet itch this should be second on your list (after bug spray that is) placed on horses whilst turned out to prevent insect bites and stings.

Exercise blanket. If your horse is to be clipped in the winter and it snows in your area this is a must have, it keeps the back and quarters warm whist working.

Rugs Depending on your stabling arrangements and climate you may require up to three rugs. If stabled your horse could have a lighter duvet rug whilst indoors, and then have this exchanged for a New Zealand or Weatherbeta for when turned out. It is advisable to have at least two turnout rugs should you have wet winters with snow, as this allows for them to dry properly prior to being used on the horse again.

Should your horse live out it would require at least two New Zealand rugs. Ensure that the waterproof lining is intact and not allowing moisture to seep through.

Exercise bandages, these are made of elastic or ribbed fabric, although not as fashionable as boots, exercise bandages have one benefit over boots if applied correctly they are a perfect fit where most boots are only near perfect. Used to protect the legs whilst in work and to support tendons. Also helps with beeping the legs warm in the winter.

Stable bandages these used to be made of wool of flannelling, today they are often made of fleecing. Every owner needs at least one pair on stable bandages; these are used from bandaging for warmth or for the proper drying of legs to extra support for wound dressings.

Medical or First Aid Kit
Regardless of whether your horse is boarded or not every owner should have their own first aid kit, here is the basic kit for horse owners
• Crepe bandages and safety pins
• Scissors
• Cotton wool (lots and lots)
• Disposable nappies
• Thermometer
• Gentian violet spray often referred to as purple spray
• Disinfectant (Hibiscrub or Hibitane is best)
• Iodine salve (or if sensitive to Iodine Prenine)
• Vit E salve or oil
• Eye ointment ideally Exocin drops
• Epson salts
• Bicarbonate of soda
• Syringes various sizes
• Latex gloves
• Electrolytes
• Cotton self adhesive bandages (Elastoplast)
• Cooling gel
• Instant ice pack
• Gauze pads
• Jelonet or paraffin gauze

More advanced include
• Black powder or Forgastrin
• Acriflvine in glycerine
• Glycerine and itchamol
• Honey
• Cohesive bandages
• Insulation tape
• Glad wrap
• Poultice mix or kaolin
• Liquid paraffin

The Master Cleanse Detox

The Master Cleanse Detox is plan that you can follow to help with weight loss and cleanse waste from the body. Over the years toxic waste builds up in your body, which will begin to deteriorate your health. The Master Cleanse Detox started back in the 1940’s by a man named Stanley Burroughs, and to this day the Master Cleanse Detox is used by many individuals and has maintained a good reputation. Of course, when choosing any diet, you should always do so with caution. Understand what that particular diet involves so that you can get the most out of it. And to insure that it is completed safely and correctly.Body detoxification is needed because when waste builds up in your body it can have unfavorable affects, such as fatigue, frequents illness and digestive issues. When doing the Master Cleanse Detox, toxins are cleansed through colon, skin, kidneys and liver. The Master Cleanse Detox also known as the Beyonce’ diet, Lemonade or Maple Syrup Diet is nothing more than fasting. Consuming only the necessary ingredients to promote detoxification and healing of the body. Drinking 32 ounces of sea salt water in the morning, followed by a mixture of lemon juice, maple syrup, cayenne pepper, and water for your mid day meals, ending with a laxative tea at night. The sea salt water and the laxative tea help to get the digestive tract moving. And are two key tasks that must be done with diligence in order to be successful, along with the lemon juice that acts as a high potency cleansing agent.

I know everyone wants to know. How effective is it? The truth is nothing is ever one hundred percent. Some people report that they find it too difficult to follow a diet such as the Master Cleanse Detox, but many others report great success. When you rid your body of excess waste with the Master Cleanse Detox you will start to look and feel better. The first few days of the Master Cleanse Detox can be the most difficult, you may become slightly irritable and get headaches. However, once you get past the first couple of days you will begin to feel a lot better. When it comes to doing the Master Cleanse Detox, the good news is that it only lasts for a short period of time. A good rule of thumb is 10 days will give you the maximum benefit of the cleanse, and 3 days is the minimum amount of days you would need to complete in order to get some good out of the cleanse. As mentioned before this diets can be difficult to follow because you consume no solid food, but the purpose for this is to enable toxic waste in your body to be expelled as quickly as possible.

When you start the Master Cleanse Detox you will lose weight which is one of the most noticeable benefits. You will see that your skin and complexion will improve, bad breath goes away, lunges and nasal passages clear, and you will feel that you have more energy. Others who suffer from acid reflux and ulcers, notice significant decrease or riddance of those ailments as a whole. The Master Cleanse Detox if done the proper way can truly be something that is life changing. It should be used as a jump start to a life style change. The Master Cleanse Detox has been successful for many people – and if it has been successful for them, then it more than likely will be successful for you.

1. 32 ounces of sea salt mixed with water every morning. You cannot eat for the next 7 to 10 days in order for the diet to properly detox your body.

2. Cayenne pepper, lemon juice, Grade B maple syrup, and filtered water to drink during the day to replace your normal lunch schedule. If you feel you need to chew on something ice is a great thing to use.

3. At dinner time drink Senna laxative tea. Or you can choose to drink this before going to bed.

The lemon juice detox recipe may seem very easy to follow. However, it is a diet that needs to be committed to and taken very seriously. The first three days are the hardest to overcome due to the fact you are removing solid food from your diet for the next 10 days. Once you are able to get past the first three days of the Master Cleanse detox, you will begin to see results immediately.

Nutritional Fact for Master Cleanse Detox ingredients:

Lemons: 100% of the RDA for vitamin C. One lemon would also contain about 12 grams of carbohydrates, 1 gram of protein and 3 grams of sodium. Lemons contain no fat and no sugar

Cheyenne pepper: The potent, hot fruit of cayenne has been used as medicine for centuries. For the gastrointestinal tract: including stomach cramping pains, and gas. As well as for diseases of the circulatory system and is still traditionally used in herbal medicine as a circulatory tonic.

Grade B Maple Syrup: Carbohydrates, Thiamin Vit. B1, Riboflavin Vit. B2, Niacin Vit. B3, Pantothenic acid, Vitamin B6, Calcium, Iron, Magnesium, Phosphorus, Potassium, Zinc